Dr. Rhea - relationship & sexuality counseling

There is no “NORMAL’ amount of sex to have, nor length of time that sex should last – some people like a lot, others don’t – no scientific “NORM” has been established

Many people enjoy sex for reasons other than orgasm

”SEX” is NOT limited to INTERCOURSE nor does it end when the man has an orgasm

 

CONNECTION with the partner and the overall experience of being together sexually (not specifically or primarily orgasm) is what more people report as seeking;

when they learn to connect, it's what they want; when they don’t have connection, it's what they miss

Let’s get a few facts clear:

Only about 30% of women reportedly have orgasms from intercourse alone – most women need direct and consistent clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm

The “G” spot is a real part of female anatomy, does provide stimulation, can aid in reaching and increasing number and intensity of orgasms

Pornography is a fine stimulator for many individuals and couples, but is NOT usually a good source for learning sexual skills – those women are most often ACTING – NOT COMING, those men are often using pills and other aids to make them last longer

Orgasm is a series of spasms that involve the spinal cord and other parts of the anatomy of men and women – but the BRAIN remains the most powerful sex organ which influences and responds to orgasm and the entire sexual experience

In nature, the male in the barnyard that impregnates the most females has most chance of sending forth his own genes – “coming fast” may be hardwired in some men (which does NOT mean that they can’t learn to “last longer” – humans are NOT just barnyard animals!)